This resonates. I used to be obsessed with creating the perfect FHE lessons with props and handouts and it became so stressful and unfulfilling I finally said screw it. But then there was guilt. Now I know this was coming from a place of “should” + my struggles with perfectionism and impossibly high standards. Now that I’m out of the church, it’s been so nice to re-evaluate what’s important to our family and create new systems and traditions on our terms.
OK, you're blowing my mind with all these systems you're implementing. I love the idea of planning for the dysregulation and creating ways to deal with it in advance. Like you said to me last night aby my hair pulling stuff, I need to be expecting the inevitable dysregulation and planning for how I'm gonna handle it. Blowing my mind. Love.
This resonates. I used to be obsessed with creating the perfect FHE lessons with props and handouts and it became so stressful and unfulfilling I finally said screw it. But then there was guilt. Now I know this was coming from a place of “should” + my struggles with perfectionism and impossibly high standards. Now that I’m out of the church, it’s been so nice to re-evaluate what’s important to our family and create new systems and traditions on our terms.
OK, you're blowing my mind with all these systems you're implementing. I love the idea of planning for the dysregulation and creating ways to deal with it in advance. Like you said to me last night aby my hair pulling stuff, I need to be expecting the inevitable dysregulation and planning for how I'm gonna handle it. Blowing my mind. Love.
I also struggled and still do at times with perfectionism. It’s hard to carry so much guilt and shame around for so long.